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Just for today - July 29

"As we realize our need to be forgiven, we tend to be more forgiving."

Basic Text, p.38

Our behavior toward other people in our life is a mirror of our behavior toward ourselves. When we demand perfection of ourselves, we come to demand it from others around us, too. As we strive to repair and heal our lives in recovery, we may also expect others to work just as hard and to recover at the same pace as we do. And just as we are often unforgiving of our own mistakes, we may shut out friends and family members when they don't meet our expectations.

Working the steps helps us understand our own limitations and our humanity. We come to see our failures as human mistakes. We realize that we will never be perfect, that we will, at times, disappoint ourselves and others. We hope for forgiveness.

As we learn to gently accept ourselves, we can start to view others with the same accepting and tolerant heart. These people, too, are only human, trying to do their best and sometimes falling short.

Just for today: I will treat others with the tolerance and forgiveness I seek for myself.

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SoberJenny29's picture

This one was good for me to read! I didnt have any tolerance at all for other people, and couldn't forgive them or myself. As I work through my recovery I begin to see where I was wrong, and realize that others have to do things there own way and not mine! I have learned to firgive.. not forget but its a start! 

Jenny S Mayhew